I still don’t get why everyone is obsessed about marring their “best friend” but lets just blame it on social media, TV adverts etc. so, what is the proper definition of marriage?
“Marriage is a legal binding of two people as partners in a personal relationship”
Back to the topic at hand. Don’t get me wrong being in love is such a beautiful feeling and you get all those gooey mushy warm feeling in your belly every time you are around that person. However, in reality especially in marriage you can never be in love everyday trust me; as that same person will irritate the living hell out of you and annoy you on different occasions.
Two individuals coming together from completely different walks of life with different idealogy living together is very challenging and that is my truth. A lot of people at this day and age marry for different reasons which are:
- Having the same goal in life and supporting each other through it in terms of their dreams and aspirations
- Financial stability
- Great business partners
- Having similar ways of bringing up their child
- Similar faith and belief
- Have similar interest and hobbies etc
I want to believe that most couples have most of what I listed above but definitely wont have all of it until I see that 1% I will stand by this. Lets look at the history of how marriage has changed over the decades.
In the 1950s, men and woman marriage was more of a gender divide and I will not be surprise if some marriages are still based on this ideology. Let me explain using this quotes;
Husband – “My wife is a good cook, good mom and a good listener but I can’t talk to her as she can’t understand my work”
Wife – ” My husband is a good provider but doesn’t understand my mood or what the kids needs”
Lets now go to the 1970s and 1980s , this is when more woman entered the workforce and there was a little equality which is pretty much the beginning of the friendship marriage. And by the 1990s our expectation of marriage now include mutual respect and understanding of each other as an individual which I am absolutely down with and I think its great.
As much as I love and respect the shift that has happened over the decades the reality in the 2000s is people aren’t seeking a person that they love as you can have this same feelings for anybody that you wont even get married to or be in a relationship with and that’s just the truth.
Here is why; recent studies have shown that life satisfaction gained from marriage has doubled in recent years hence the term “friendship” came about. But my question is why is the word “wife” or “husband” not enough for us in this generation anymore instead of replacing it with the word “best friend”?
Don’t paint me as an hater as I will still like that cute picture you post on social media but when I see “best friend” in your caption I will probably just roll my eyes as its not what I believe in he he. Regardless, of what you want to call your partner which is none of my business, the marital ideology is collectively shifting and maybe that saying “best friend” is more easier to stomach – I don’t know!!
But one thing I do know is “marrying your best friend” is such a cliché. Comment below what you thought’s are on this topic pleaseeeeeee.